Who’s at Fault, You Or Your Goals??
Now here is a topic you WON’T see everyday because many people are either embarrassed to talk about it or don’t want to admit the truth about themselves.
Can your family actually be jealous of an inanimate object?
Well sure, look how many people complain that:
You spend too much time on that tv?
Why don’t you just marry the tv !!
You are always working on that car, you love that car more than me!!
When are you Married to the Computer? When your Kids would sooner touch your jewelry than your pc #MarriedtotheComputer
— MarriedtotheComputer (@MarriedComputer) June 26, 2014
Yada, Yada, you get the idea.
We may have all at one point in time said one of those words, so why should this be any different for the computer.
With the computer, you can do so much with it, whether you are operating a business or not, the possibilities are endless, so therefore a lot of time can be spent on the computer and you may not even realize it.
Remember when the internet first became popular, and the news would talk about how many people spent so much time getting “hooked” that their marriages, and family relationships were suffering.
Well, Guess what they were right.
Employers had to put out tons of memo’s and new rules regarding employee use of the internet on Company time. Employees were getting fired for excessive computer use for non-work related tasks.
How many times when you were bored at work did you find something to do online. Check your email, play a game, surf and shop, etc.
The plain and very simple fact is that the net is very addictive, I can easily have my mind set to take care of one task on the computer, and next thing you know an idea pops up
to surf, and by that time a few hours have passed…
Now what was I supposed to do in the first place??
Oh yeah write an article about family and jealousy. But that Vine was so funny, I have to tweet about it.
Uh hmm, Back to the Article…
Family Members can get jealous of the amount of time that you spend on the computer. They may not understand that you are working to build a business or working for another company that requires many hours of dedication.
Spouses may not understand because dinner is late, or the house is a mess. I am not just talking about spouses, the children can have those same feelings.
If your child needs some help with homework or something in general but you are always putting it off because you have to do something on the computer, those feelings can erupt.
Anytime you are not trying to balance your daily tasks, and failing, then this can be a problem. There are various reasons why a family member may feel slighted when you are working on the computer.
Reasons for Jealousy
What If You Are At Fault?
So what if you are creating the jealous tendencies and don’t even realize or can’t see the warning signs.
Do you treat your pc better than you do some of your friends and relatives?
Do you go into a fit when someone else is on your pc?
Do you feel that the pc is what saves you from going crazy one day ?
If the pc breaks down, do you go into depression and withdrawal
periods until it is fixed?
Now while many of us love our pc’s, and we act as if a part of us is missing if the pc is down, do you get so focused on the computer that you forget that there is a life around you, you know the life you had before you got on the computer.
The Family Doesnt Understand What you Do Online
“Hey Joe, I hear you started a business online. What do you do?”
“Oh it’s a great business. I create social media campaigns for clients, create and edit blog posts, create WordPress cache plugins, and teach CSS, PHP, and HTML5.”
“Umm, okay so you just click a bunch of keys all day. I thought you had a real job”
And So It Begins…..
We all know how hard it is to explain our jobs and businesses to non-Computer folks. They have no clue and it gets frustrating because they may tend to dumb down the importance of your work. You dont have to use all the big words, just explain in plainer words your work online and they will begin to understand.
Are they Complaining Because It Takes Up Time with Little Results?
“You do know that while you are on the computer all day, we are broke right. Where are those so called millions that the commercials said you can make”
“Well if we are broke, then help me with the business”
If they don’t care what you do online, but are there to ask you how much money you have in PayPal, then its time to get them more interested in YOUR business.
Incorporate all the benefits of your business to them, let them know of any and ALL parts of your business that your family may want to know about.
“Well you know now that I have my own business, then we can deduct this and that on our taxes”
“Well you know now that I have my own business, we may be able to qualify for items at a wholesale price”
“Well you know now that I have my own business, my new client can give you a great discount on their product since they love my work”
Sell yourself and your business, use common sense and you can’t go wrong.
Introduce them to the Computer
Sounds crazy, but a lot of people are afraid of new technology and they think nothing but negative thoughts on the subject. While some may spend all of their time on social sites, they know nothing about how to use the computer for business purposes.
Many of us have relatives who have never been near a computer and don’t know how it works, well let them know it is not as scary as you thought. We also have relatives who waste a lot of time on the computer, but dont use it to good use. They spend all day gaming, or social media sites and cant imagine putting that time to good use with a business. Let them know all you are trying to do is make money like everyone else, but in a modern way as opposed to the old way of clocking in at 9, and clocking out at 5.
Set A Time Limit For Pc Use
Yes we need to spend as much time as possible our first few years on the computer, but when you have a family at home, you HAVE to set some sort of limit or when you are making all that money, no one will be around to see it.
It’s A Machine, Not A Person
So don’t treat it as such. If Someone offers some information to you, don’t run and say ” Well the internet told me such and such on the subject and you are wrong”
Remember there is wrong information on the computer too. You ever know some people who treat their pets better than humans, well don’t fall victim to any of it.
Let the Fears Go, Some people are afraid to even turn off their computer… as if they are going to miss some huge important email..
Let It Go Before You Drive Yourself Crazy…
Smell The Roses
No, you don’t have to read your magazine online, you can still have it delivered to your door.
No, you don’t have to watch your favorite programs online, you can still go to the television.
No, you don’t have to buy everything online, the stores are still out there and are still making tons of money from people who walk in there every day.
We Love Technology but ask anyone who like myself who spends plenty of time every day online, we all miss the simple things in life.
So Get Up and Go Outside and Remember What Fresh Air Smells Like.
Take a break from worrying about social likes, or your conversion rate, or your search engine rankings, just breathe…..